Eighteen

So. Overnight our household changed. Just like that. No lightening strike. Nor mysterious music playing in the distance. Not even an “if you please“. Nothing. It just happened. Overnight another adult was added to the family (and swapped for one of my children).

Eldest teen has turned 18. Not that it was a surprise. I mean, she has been around for a while. Little step by little step we’ve always been heading in this direction. In day to day life, it makes little difference. Although, I’m sure she’d tell you that she is a bit miffed at certain aspects of being counted as an adult.  As for me, I don’t feel different suddenly being a parent to an adult. Just like everything about parenting, most things change subtly over time, so when the time comes, it doesn’t feel like a cosmic shift.

(She knows I think she’s wonderful.)

(2002, I came, I saw, I conquered)

For her big day, we went to the Walled Garden at Mells and sat on the walled terrace, eating woodfired pizza and soaking in the fragrance of the roses, warmed by the surrounding stones. Home again for birthday cake and presents.

In the evening, we ventured out for the first time, since February, to a restaurant in Bath. Chinese was the birthday girl’s choice. Each table had Perspex moveable walls around them, with the waiting staff wearing masks. I watched as Eldest coached Youngest in the art of chopstick use. She wouldn’t let him give up.

 

(Sunday walk at Deer Leap)

What next? There are exam results to look forward to in the coming week, although she has her eye on the October exams, so she’s not really overly anxious about her centre assessed grades. They don’t feel real. If the plan stays the same, she hopes to go to University the following autumn, so time is on her side.

After that, I’m so excited to see where she is going. She loves languages, so I suspect she’ll be off and away before long. Fleeting visits home for us all to look forward to. I have moments when I wonder if we’ve taught her enough, but there are many more times when I know we have.

I hope she’ll look back kindly on her childhood in rural Somerset. Maybe revisit old haunts, in years to come.

So much more I could say, but it really is her story. Even more so as time goes on.

(mini meadow in the garden)

 Oh, to be eighteen again!

(PS. If you’re wondering about the rainbow cake and the wrong order, I had a bit of a culinary mishap and they ended up in the wrong order. Let’s call it a carnival cake and leave it there!)

Joining in with Anne’s Word of the Week linky

 

Word of the Week linky

20 thoughts on “Eighteen

  • Friday 7 August, 2020 at 4:04 pm
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    Congratulations to your young lady! It sounds like a perfect day, but the restaurant experience sounds a bit weird. I guess it’s something we are all going to get used to. I’m sure you’ve done a fabulous job and she will continue to blossom. If it’s making you feel a bit old, spare me a thought, my eldest is 32! Love the rainbow cake!
    Thanks for joining in with #wotw

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:09 pm
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      Yes, the restaurant did feel different and we will soon get used to it.

  • Friday 7 August, 2020 at 7:23 pm
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    Happy birthday to your daughter! It sounds like she had a wonderful day! The cake looks amazing!
    18 is a big deal isn’t it. My girl turns 18 in a month or so & it’s all she’s talked about. x

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:08 pm
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      It is exciting. I bet she’s excited.

  • Saturday 8 August, 2020 at 1:09 pm
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    Happy 18th birthday to your eldest. It sounds like she had a lovely day and I love that she was teaching your youngest how to use chopsticks. Good luck with the exam results next week. The rainbow cake looks yummy, I have to admit I didn’t notice the order of colours was wrong until you said and I had to scroll back up to look again! #WotW

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:07 pm
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      Thank you for not noticing!

  • Sunday 9 August, 2020 at 12:11 pm
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    Happy belated birthday to your daughter! And what a fab cake to celebrate with.
    I think she will have many fond memories of her childhood to look back on. x

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:07 pm
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      I hope so.

  • Monday 10 August, 2020 at 11:35 am
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    Happy birthday to the new young adult. 18 was a fun and scary time for me – I wanted to experience the world but it was frightening too. Sending warm thoughts for a happy 18th years. #MMBC

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:07 pm
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      Thank you. I’m sure we all felt that way.

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:06 pm
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      Thank you.

  • Monday 10 August, 2020 at 5:10 pm
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    I love the cake (didn’t even notice the order was wrong!). What a beautiful post! Happy birthday to your 18 year old. May her exam results be the right ones and she has a successful year ahead! #MMBC

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:06 pm
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      Thank you. Busy summer for her.

  • Monday 10 August, 2020 at 7:39 pm
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    Happy Birthday to your daughter is sounds like she had a lovely day. They grow up so quickly my youngest was 18, 13 years ago and it just seems like yesterday. The cake looks yummy and will taste just as good no matter what sequence the colours are in.

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:05 pm
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      I don’t think anyone noticed the order!

  • Monday 10 August, 2020 at 9:55 pm
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    That is a bit milestone! Mine just turned 16 this year and is so anxious to get his license!

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:04 pm
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      They hit those milestones so fast!

  • Tuesday 11 August, 2020 at 10:20 am
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    Happy 18th to your daughter! The cake looks fab 🙂 #mmbc

    • Wednesday 19 August, 2020 at 4:03 pm
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      Thank you.

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